JESUS, LAZARUS AND FRIENDSHIP - When Jesus becomes aware of Lazarus’s death, Jesus is deeply troubled, as any friend would be, to the point of weeping; yet He soon brings him back to life. Friendship was hugely important in classical society. Yet the word is found only once in the New Testament, at James 4:4: “friendship with the world is enmity with God.” In turn, philos, or “friend,” occurs relatively rarely (29 times). The Gospels speak of a “friend of sinners”, but philos may also be used of ordinary friends, especially in parables. On the whole, the New Testament prefers the vocabulary of kinship — brothers and sisters — to describe bonds among the faithful.

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Jesus, Lazarus, and Friendship

by David Konstan

Was Lazarus Jesus’ friend? Jesus’ love for Lazarus is a familiar human sentiment.

When He learns that Lazarus is ill, Jesus stays in Bethany two extra days out of affection for him.

Yet he then leaves for Jerusalem, though He knows that Lazarus will die, because Lazarus’s death and resurrection will enhance God’s glory.

When He becomes aware of Lazarus’s death, Jesus is deeply troubled, as any friend would be, to the point of weeping; yet He soon brings him back to life.

The Church Fathers and scholars since have wondered whether Jesus experienced genuine grief or a simulation of it — or perhaps both, since He was human and divine.

Leaving these questions to the theologians, we may ask how Jesus’ feelings for Lazarus reflected attitudes toward friendship in Jesus’ own time.

In classical Greek, the noun philia is the broadest term for “love” (but not in the erotic sense), and when the affection is mutual between two people (most often males) it is regularly translated as “friendship.”

Friendship was hugely important in classical society: Aristotle devoted fully one-fifth of his treatise on ethics to philia.

Yet the word is found only once in the New Testament, at James 4:4: “friendship with the world is enmity with God.”

In turn, philos, or “friend,” occurs relatively rarely (29 times).

The Gospels speak of a “friend of sinners” (Matthew 11:19, Luke 7:34),, but philos may also be used of ordinary friends, especially in parables (e.g., Luke 11:5).

Perhaps the classical ideal of friendship, with its emphasis on conventional (and mainly masculine) virtues, was too narrow for a community that fostered universal fellow feeling among believers, or too secular.

On the whole, the New Testament prefers the vocabulary of kinship — brothers and sisters — to describe bonds among the faithful.

Now, when Jesus says to the disciples, “our friend Lazarus is asleep,” He indeed uses the word philos. 

Later, when the Jews see Jesus weeping, they say that he really loved Lazarus, employing the related verb philein.

Only here in the New Testament is Jesus said to cry (dakruein); Martha and the sympathetic Jews are said rather to bewail (klaiein) Lazarus’ death.

Jesus’ affection for Martha, Mary, and Lazarus, on the contrary, is expressed rather by the verb agapan, “cherish,” corresponding to the noun agapê, which appears first in Christian texts (both noun and verb occur over 100 times in the New Testament).

When the disciples misunderstand Jesus’ euphemistic statement that Lazarus is asleep, Jesus declares more plainly that he is dead.

The word for “plainly” is parrhêsia, which means “frankness” or “candor,” a quality that was regarded as a sign of true friendship as opposed to flattery or dissimulation.

This may be a further indication that John, or John’s source, was thinking in terms of classical friendship here.

Were Jesus and Lazarus, then, friends in the classical sense, like those famous pairs, Orestes and Pylades or Theseus and Pirithous, in Greek mythology?

Should we, moreover, include Mary and Martha in Jesus’ circle of friends, although he speaks only of Lazarus as “our philos”?

Is Jesus’ love for Lazarus special, going beyond the solidarity of the group of “friends”? Good questions, all.

David Konstan, "Jesus, Lazarus, and Friendship ", n.p. [cited 21 Apr 2019]. Online: http://bibleodyssey.org/en/people/related-articles/jesus-lazarus-and-friendship

David Konstan
Professor, New York University

David Konstan is professor of classics at New York University. Among his recent publications are The Emotions of the Ancient Greeks: Studies in Aristotle and Classical Literature (University of Toronto Press, 2006); Before Forgiveness: The Origins of a Moral Idea (Cambridge University Press, 2010); and Beauty: The Fortunes of an Ancient Greek Idea(Oxford University Press, 2014). He is a past president of the American Philological Association and a fellow of the American Academy of Arts and Sciences.

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