Showing posts with label Romance. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Romance. Show all posts

Tuesday, February 9, 2021

WHAT VALENTINE’S DAY CAN TEACH US ABOUT LOVING GOD - What can we learn about our relationship with God when we think of romance, and the "bride and groom" metaphor described in the Bible? Relationships take time and it is as true with God as it is with any human lover - it doesn’t happen overnight. You start with the smaller topics of conversation and gradually open up to the deeper ones. You begin opening your heart and pulling down the masks. The relationship begins to grow. From God’s end, it’s much the same. He starts with the basics. He’ll speak of his key traits, his love for us and how it applies to who we are. In time he’ll share more of what’s on his heart, he’ll open up about his plans and entrust us with greater spheres of understanding. With time comes trust. As the relationship builds, you’ll be able to hear him say the harder things. When he asks you to do something you find difficult, you’ll know his character enough to step out with him knowing the outcome will only be good. Loving God will help you love others. Receiving love from him will help you receive love from others. A single friend of mine used to “go on a date with Jesus”. She would mark the event in her diary, set the table for two, light a candle and pray for the evening. I understood the sentiment, but still found it a little cringeworthy. Jesus doesn’t sit opposite you at a restaurant and compliment you on your outfit. He doesn’t tenderly hold your hand over dinner and he certainly doesn’t kiss you goodnight.

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What Valentine’s Day Can Teach us About Loving God

What can we learn about our relationship with God when we think of romance, and the "bride and groom" metaphor described in the Bible?

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Relationships take time and it is as true with God as it is with any human lover - it doesn’t happen overnight. You start with the smaller topics of conversation and gradually open up to the deeper ones. You begin opening your heart and pulling down the masks. The relationship begins to grow. 

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From God’s end, it’s much the same. He starts with the basics. He’ll speak of his key traits, his love for us and how it applies to who we are. In time he’ll share more of what’s on his heart, he’ll open up about his plans and entrust us with greater spheres of understanding. With time comes trust. 

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As the relationship builds, you’ll be able to hear him say the harder things. When he asks you to do something you find difficult, you’ll know his character enough to step out with him knowing the outcome will only be good. Loving God will help you love others. Receiving love from him will help you receive love from others.

By Tania Harris


 

A single friend of mine used to “go on a date with Jesus”.

She would mark the event in her diary, set the table for two, light a candle and pray for the evening.

I understood the sentiment, but still found it a little cringeworthy.

Jesus doesn’t sit opposite you at a restaurant and compliment you on your outfit.

He doesn’t tenderly hold your hand over dinner and he certainly doesn’t kiss you goodnight.

Even the well-worn phrase “I love you Jesus” can sit oddly from an outsider’s perspective. Sociologists describe Christians as having an ‘imaginary friend’ and I can understand why.

How do you envisage a relationship with an invisible deity?

Our Metaphorical Groom

I think this is why metaphors are used so often in the Scriptures to make sense of our relationship with God.

They’re an effective way to aid our understanding of a phenomena that can be difficult to describe.

Each metaphor acts to highlight a different element of the relationship.

For example,

o  the metaphor of father-child (Matthew 7:11) reminds us of God’s protective and nurturing nature and our trusting responsive heart,

o  the metaphor of king-servant (1 Corinthians 4:1) reminds us of God’s sovereignty and power and our need to reverence him as beneficiary,

o  the metaphor of a shepherd-sheep (John 10:27) reminds us of the God who personally leads and guides and our role to follow.

Yet out of all the metaphors that are used (and there’s plenty more), the image of bride and groom is the most common (e.g. Isaiah 62:5) and we have to ask why.

As we celebrate Valentine’s Day this week, what is it about this particular metaphor that we can learn from when we think of our relationship with God and the conversations we have with him?

A Relationship that Takes Time

One thing we see is that relationships take time and it is as true with God as it is with any human lover.

You get to know the character of your beau through shared experience. You get to know their likes and dislikes through watching their behaviour.

But it doesn’t happen overnight. We’re never fully vulnerable on the first date.

The same dynamic applies with God. The first steps with him are often tentative.

You start with the smaller topics of conversation and gradually open up to the deeper ones.

You begin opening your heart and pulling down the masks. The relationship begins to grow.

From God’s end, it’s much the same. He starts with the basics.

He’ll speak of his key traits, his love for us and how it applies to who we are.

In time he’ll share more of what’s on his heart, he’ll open up about his plans and entrust us with greater spheres of understanding.

“The same dynamic applies with God. You start with the smaller topics of conversation and gradually open up to the deeper ones.”

With time comes trust. At first you hear about how he has related to others.

You see it with your community and friends. You hear about it in the stories of history from the Scriptures.

Then as you walk with him, your trust begins to grow.

As the relationship builds, you’ll be able to hear him say the harder things.

When he asks you to do something you find difficult, you’ll know his character enough to step out with him knowing the outcome will only be good.

Soon, you’ll pick up on the nuances of his actions, you’ll know his thoughts without even asking, you’ll see his hand more clearly as he entrusts more of his heart.

Love God, Love Others

The beautiful irony about developing your relationship with God is that the skills and truths you learn communicating with him will overflow into your human relationships.

Loving God will help you love others. Receiving love from him will help you receive love from others.

Growing in our relationship with God enables us to fulfil the two greatest commandments (Matthew 22:37-39) and that’s a good reason to celebrate Valentine’s Day.

Article supplied with thanks to God Conversations.

About the Author: Tania Harris is a pastor, speaker, author and the founder of God Conversations.

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https://hope1032.com.au/stories/faith/2018/can-learn-loving-god-valentines-point-view/


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Monday, January 18, 2021

GET LOST IN GOD’S LOVE - How To Get Lost In God’s Love And Save Your Marriage - This world’s paradigm of love can often put a lot of emphasis on sex, romance and passion in marriage. God’s Word defines marital love more in terms of friendship and commitment than sex and romance. I’ve long embraced the biblical story of the woman at the well (John 4). She tried man after man but never felt that her thirst for love had been quenched. She was desperate and love-sick. It doesn’t matter how deep the problem; the solution is still God’s love. And He has buckets and buckets of love to fix your marriage. And to fix your heart. - Every person on earth has a deep desire to be loved. And as wonderful as love in marriage is, it will never be a fulfilling love unless we first saturate ourselves in the unfailing love of God. As wonderful as love in marriage is, it will never be a fulfilling love unless we first saturate ourselves in the unfailing love of God. Before you accuse me of sounding cliché, I’ve learned this on the hot pavement of life, and I’d like to offer four practical tips that have helped me to live it out. Admit that what you need more than anything else in this world is to be well loved. Because love is a basic need of humanity, every person has a deep desire to be loved. During a difficult season of feeling unloved in my marriage, God led me to Proverbs 19:22 (NIV): “What a person desires is unfailing love; better to be poor than a liar.” God alone holds the answer to our deep craving for love.

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Get Lost In God’s Love

How To Get Lost In God’s Love And Save Your Marriage

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This world’s paradigm of love can often put a lot of emphasis on sex, romance and passion in marriage. God’s Word defines marital love more in terms of friendship and commitment than sex and romance. 

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I’ve long embraced the biblical story of the woman at the well (John 4). She tried man after man but never felt that her thirst for love had been quenched. She was desperate and love-sick. It doesn’t matter how deep the problem; the solution is still God’s love. And He has buckets and buckets of love to fix your marriage. And to fix your heart.

BY DANNAH GRESH

 

 

Every person on earth has a deep desire to be loved.

And as wonderful as love in marriage is, it will never be a fulfilling love unless we first saturate ourselves in the unfailing love of God.

“Lord, fix my husband. Fix us!”

As quickly as the prayer was on my lips, I felt God ask, Do you believe I can do what you are asking Me to do?

I did not.

My husband, Bob, and I had reached a place of deep pain.

Busyness. Sinfulness. Selfishness.

I was angry with Bob.

The circumstances don’t really matter. They’re probably a lot like the circumstances in your marriage from time to time.

But convinced I could not love him well until he loved me better, I dug myself into a prayer routine that proved futile.

I was, in fact, looking for love in the wrong place.

As wonderful as love in marriage is, it will never be a fulfilling love unless we first saturate ourselves in the unfailing love of God.

Before you accuse me of sounding cliché, I’ve learned this on the hot pavement of life, and I’d like to offer four practical tips that have helped me to live it out.

Admit that what you need more than anything else in this world is to be well loved.

Because love is a basic need of humanity, every person has a deep desire to be loved.

During a difficult season of feeling unloved in my marriage, God led me to Proverbs 19:22 (NIV):

“What a person desires is unfailing love; better to be poor than a liar.”

The Bible uses the phrase “unfailing love” more than 30 times, and not one of them refers to any source other than God himself.

He alone holds the answer to our deep craving for love.

This means that your husband or wife will never be able to fulfill this need unless you first find satisfaction in God’s love.

Let your spouse off the hook.

The greatest symptom that my need for love was misdirected was that I was praying for God to change my husband — without having the humility to ask God how He wanted to change me.

It is never wrong to pray for God to make your husband or wife more like Him.

However, when your prayers are void of your own need, that might indicate you’re trying to have your needs met through a person’s love rather than through God’s.

When I realized this in my own life, I simply asked God to make me hungry for His love.

It takes a lot of courage to admit that your marriage might not be exactly what you want because you are not exactly what you need to be.

Be brave. Put yourself under God’s care to be changed.

Write a list of things your spouse does to express his or her love for you.

Do this as an act of thanksgiving to God. My counselor assigned this task to me and, although I took it on reluctantly, it had a dramatic impact on my heart.

I am, in fact, a very loved woman.

I have a husband who never fails to ask for forgiveness, prays with me each night at bedtime, willingly enters into counseling when we need it, manages our money well, begs me to sneak away with him from time to time, and tolerates my weaknesses as much as I tolerate his.

It’s easy to lose sight of all this when we’re hurting each other, and it is so important to refocus our thinking to be grateful.

As I did this, it became an act of loving my husband through God’s love in me.

Invest in the friendship of your spouse.

This world’s paradigm of love can often put a lot of emphasis on sex, romance and passion in marriage.

If those things aren’t on full boil, we tend to think our relationship lacks love.

But God’s Word defines marital love more in terms of friendship and commitment than sex and romance.

Take a night to play a board game or enjoy a hike together on a Sunday afternoon.

If you can meet your spouse for lunch, consider canceling an appointment with a personal trainer or even a friend.

I’ve long embracedthe biblical story of the woman at the well (John 4).

She tried man after man but never felt that her thirst for love had been quenched. She was desperate and love-sick.

Then, when Jesus showed up, He offered her the love she really needed.

But she said, “You have nothing to draw water with, and the well is deep”

How like us! How like me.

You don’t have to be a woman who has had many husbands to be parched with a thirst for love.

You just have to be a woman who is trying to get something from her husband that only God can give. I know.

I have been there many times, just waiting for God to show up. And when He does, I’m prone to tell him, “But God, I’m in so deep, and you don’t have a bucket!”

It doesn’t matter how deep the problem; the solution is still God’s love.

And He has buckets and buckets of love to fix your marriage.

And to fix your heart.

Dannah Gresh is a best-selling author of numerous books and a popular public speaker who is especially passionate about helping parents build strong relationships with their children and encouraging tweens and teens to pursue sexual purity. Dannah’s recent books include It’s Great to Be a Girl, Raising Body-Confident Daughters and A Girl’s Guide to Understanding Boys. Dannah and her husband, Bob, reside in State College, Pa., and have three grown children. Learn more about Dannah and her work by visiting the website for her organization, Pure Freedom.

https://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/how-to-get-lost-in-gods-love-and-save-your-marriage/


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