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Shema as a Love
Story
The three paragraphs of
the Shema can be interpreted allegorically by connecting each of the three
paragraphs to a different stage of a growing, loving relationship
BY JEFFREY SPITZER
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“What is the
love of God that is appropriate? It is to love God with an exceedingly strong
love until one’s soul is tied to the love of God.
“One should be in a continuous rapture, like a person
who is ‘lovesick,’ whose thoughts cannot turn from his love for a particular
woman. He is preoccupied with her at all times, whether he is sitting or
standing, whether he is eating or drinking.
“Even more intense should the love of God be in the
hearts of those who love him, possessing them always as we are commanded ‘with
all your heart and with all your soul’ (Deuteronomy
6:5).
“This is what Solomon expressed allegorically ‘for I
am sick with love’ (Song of Songs 2:5), and indeed, the entire Song of Songs is a parable
for this concept.” — Maimonides, Laws
of Repentance, 10:3
Although Maimonides adapts the language of the first
paragraph of the Shema (Deuteronomy 6:4-8), known as v’ahavta
— ואהבת, “and you shall love” — he is clearly echoing
the language of the first paragraph.
“When you sit in your house, when you walk on the way,
when you lie down and when you rise up”
(Deuteronomy 6:7).
When
one falls in love, this is what it is like.
The
object of one’s love is all there is; the love and the relationship create a
complete unity of experience.
A person in love wants to shout out “Do you hear! I
am in love! This is the one!”
That’s not too far from “Hear, O Israel, the Lord
is our God, the Lord is one!”
When one falls in love, one wants to learn everything
about that person (“and you shall speak of them”), the conversations
last all day and even through the night (“when you lie down and when you
rise up”).
Sometimes
people exchange personal items — it used to be a sweater or a pin or a
handkerchief — which they keep with them in order to be tied to that person
even when outside of the beloved’s physical presence.
This,
of course, recalls the tefillin, the leather boxes and straps
that are worn each morning during prayers, but which, in earlier times, were
worn by some pious Jews all day long.
And
photographs serve like mezuzot, the physical reminders of God
with the words of the Shema, inside boxes placed on doorposts.
When
one first discovers God, when authentic spirituality is experienced, one is
entirely enraptured by it, as one is when one first falls in love.
After
one falls in love, a relationship moves into a more serious mode.
The initial rapture of infatuation moves toward
learning about each other, really listening to each other, creating rules for
the relationship, including general ones (such as, “Don’t have this kind of
relationship with anyone else”) and specific ones (such as, “Don’t talk
about my nose”).
As
long as the rules are observed, the relationship flourishes.
When
the rules are not observed, the ties that connect seem less bountiful, the
relationship withers and falls apart.
Similarly, the second paragraph of the Shema
(Deuteronomy 11:13-22) begins “If you will truly listen/understand/obey (אם שמע תשמעו) my mitzvot” and focuses on the need to pay attention in order to understand the
“rules” of the human-divine relationship.
Then the Shema presents the following condition: If
you observe the commandments, God will send rain in the appropriate season; the
fields will produce plenty of wine, grain, and oil; and you will eat and be
satisfied. If you don’t observe the commandments, the rain will stop, the land
will dry up, and you will starve.
The
Bible was written for people who understood the cycle of rain. The rain
literally and figuratively connects heaven and earth.
The
mitzvot are the commands that tie Israel to God and God to
Israel.
When
they are observed, the relationship with God grows and produces fruit. When the
mitzvot are ignored, the relationship withers away.
The paragraph concludes with a view to the future. “[Do
these things] so that your days upon the land be multiplied.”
As
this stage in a relationship matures, the couple begins to think about the
long-term implications of their relationship.
The
ultimate stage in this loving relationship is marriage and the declaration that
the relationship will last.
The
marriage is marked by the use of a public sign and reminder, a wedding ring.
The
ring reminds the wearer of the marital covenant and is a sign to onlookers that
the person is part of an eternal relationship.
This is most crucial in avoiding “wandering hearts
and eyes” through which a person prostitutes the relationship.
In
rabbinic terminology, the marital relationship is called kiddushin
(sanctification) to indicate that the two are sanctified to each other.
In
the final paragraph of the Shema (Numbers 15:37-41), Israel is commanded to make tzitzit
(fringes) upon the corners of their garments as public signs and as reminders.
The
reference to the corner of the garment (kanaf) recalls the use of
the language in the book of Ruth, where to come under the corner of one’s
garment symbolizes the commitment to marry (Ruth
3:9).
Nowadays,
we take the tzitzit in our hand when reciting the Shema
and kiss them.
The tzitzit are designed to be public
signs and also personal reminders “that you not go scouting-around after
your heart, after your eyes which you go whoring after” (Numbers 15:39, following Everett Fox’s translation).
Do all of this, the Torah enjoins, “in order that
you remember and do all of the commandments and thereby be sanctified (kedoshim)
to your God” (והייתם קדשים
לאלהיכם) (Numbers 15:40).
Maimonides asks “What is the love that is
appropriate for God?”
His
response is to love God as if you are falling in love, only more so.
But
humans don’t love that intensely all of the time. Judaism is not just for the
moments of spiritual ecstasy or radical religious insight.
Judaism
is about Israel loving God for the long-term, and as the Shema teaches, that
means learning the rules and making a long-term and public commitment.
Jeffrey Spitzer teaches Bible, Rabbinics, Jewish history and Jewish
leadership, and is a house associate at the American Hebrew Academy, a Jewish
boarding school in Greensboro, North Carolina. He previously was the chair of
the Rabbinic Literature department at Gann Academy, a Jewish high school in
Waltham, Massachusetts, and has taught in numerous adult Jewish education
programs.
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